WHO’S YOUR BEST FRIEND?
Greetings brethren! Honestly I dreamt
of you last night. And believe me; what I saw in the dream disclosed to me that
we were almost close to the point where the best is kept for us.
I’ve reiterated the fact often times that everyone needs to be faced
with an option so he/she can make a choice; because if there’s no option, one
may think, albeit ignorantly, that what he has is the best. In other words,
‘best’ is a superlative adjective which comes up after thorough comparison.
Two weeks ago during my business stay in Jos –Plateau State, I used the
opportunity to meet one of my old time friends residing in the city. The young
man in question recently took a woman to the altar barely three months ago, and
I wasn’t opportune to attend the remarkable ceremony. The moment I entered his
sitting room, he ushered the newest bride for a formal introduction. Having
introduced me to her, he began by saying, “Engineer Fred, meet my best friend
and soul mate…”, referring to the woman of the moment. That is by the way;
please pardon the digression.
The topic before us is “Who’s your best friend?” The topic might seem or
sound trivial but frankly speaking, it bears a very critical issue that
requires to be treated with all manner of seriousness coupled with
thoroughness.
In one of my previous publications titled “Commemorating the 2014
International Day of Friendship…” which had to do with the annual anniversary
of the Int’l Day of Friendship as mandated by the United Nations (UN), I took
my precious time to analyze extensively the real meaning of a friend. I made it
known that, a friend is a person one likes and knows well. Furthermore, I
stated that it could be defined as a supporter of a cause or a staunch fan of a
certain organization.
The above definition implies that, a friend is the first person(s) you
wish to call whenever you receive good news. Needless to say; a friend is that
person or fellow that would like to accompany you on the most boring errands or
trips and make them seem fun.
Significantly, going by the aforementioned statement, your best friend
is one of your friends in whom you’re well pleased and wish to share all your
blessings or burdens with. Mind you, one could boast of more than one best
friend. But the problem we invariably face is how to know who is/are truly our
best friend(s). Or in a nutshell, the qualities that make one your best friend.
This is where the interest of today’s edition lies. Let’s ride on!
Beloved, there are certain distinct idiosyncrasies that a friend,
brother, or sister bound to possess before he/she can be referred to as your
best friend. Or, before you regard him/her as your ‘best friend’. You can see
that I made mention of a brother or sister, because your relative can also be
regarded as your friend; yes, one can be introduced as your brother or sister
as well as your friend. You must be mindful of the fact that, not all your
relations are your friends, considering the definition of ‘a friend’ stated
above.
We have already made it clear that, one can never make a choice or
acquire the best if there are no options. So for you to acquire the best, you
must be placed with an option. The option would enable you to compare or
contrast between the things or persons involved.
Let’s go straight to the point regarding who you’re meant to be seen or
addressed as your best friend. Since your friend is that first person you wish
to call whenever you receive any good or bad news as the case may be, then your
best friend is that person who wishes to call you whenever he/she receives any
good or bad news, this signifies that, there must be reciprocation in the kind
of affection or feeling you have for the person you call your best friend.
Therefore, as you wish to hear from him or her come rain come shine, he/she is
also expected to wish that he/she hears from you in any circumstance. There’s
no two ways about it.
Suffice to say that, anyone you
regard as your best friend is expected to be there for you just as you are
there for him or her. Summarily, the kind of affections that exist in best
friendship must be reciprocal. The two or more parties involved must be there
for each other regardless of the circumstance. We must have this at the back of
our minds, so that, we won’t continue to derail as regards whom we regard as
our ‘best friend’.
Regarding the above analyses, the first person that ought to be seen as
one’s best friend is his/her mother, husband or wife as the case might be,
because friendship between a child and his/her mother remains the best ever,
likewise that of a man/woman and his or her wife/husband just as my bosom
friend in Jos introduced his darling wife as his best friend.
At this juncture, I ask once again: who’s your best friend? Think about
it!
FRED DOC
NWAOZOR
frednwaozor@gmail.com
